OPENING THE WOUND
There is a kind of man who has spent his whole life trying to be good.
Good enough.
Safe enough.
Helpful enough.
Spiritual enough.
Respectful enough.
He says the right things.
He knows the language.
He understands consent, trauma, nervous systems, emotional intelligence, women’s empowerment, and “doing the work.”
And still, something in him doesn't sit right.
Beneath the nice guy facade, there are parts that never dissappeared.
Still, there is resentment under the kindness.
Need under the generosity.
Control under the support.
Entitlement under the devotion.
Manipulation under the “I’m just trying to help.”
Nice Guy Graveyard is a one-day experiential shadow work workshop for men who are ready to stop performing harmlessness and face what has been buried underneath it.
This is where the nice guy dies.
Not the kind man.
Not the honest man.
Not the man with a good heart.
This is not about becoming an asshole.
It is not about glorifying darkness.
The man who needs to be seen as good before he is willing to be true — that is who we are burying.
Welcome to the Nice Guy Graveyard.
This is not fluffy shadow work.
This is not a workshop where we light a candle, talk vaguely about “the parts of ourselves we hide,” and then leave feeling profound because we admitted we get jealous sometimes.
This is actual shadow work.
The shadow is not simply the thing you already know about yourself, dislike and avoid changing.
If you already know you are controlling, avoidant, passive-aggressive, entitled, dishonest, sexually ashamed, emotionally manipulative, secretly resentful, or afraid of being exposed — that is not automatically your shadow.
That is something you are aware of.
The shadow lives deeper.
It is what you cannot yet see clearly.
It is what you project onto other people.
It is what you condemn out there because you have not made contact with it in here.
It is what leaks out sideways when your self-image is threatened.
And for many men, the nice guy persona is one of the most socially rewarded hiding places there is.
This workshop is for the man who is ready to meet what lives underneath.
The Experience:
ARRIVAL + CONTAINER
We begin with a small opening, introductions, and orientation into the container.
This is a small group. 13 men only.
You will be invited to drop your masks.
SHADOW 101
We begin by grounding into what shadow work actually is.
We will explore the difference between awareness, avoidance, shame, projection, and the nice guy as a socially acceptable mask.
GUIDED DESCENT
You will be guided into a shamanic-style visualization down into the deeper layers of the psyche.
This is a descent. A meeting place. A chance to encounter the shadow not as an abstract idea, but as a sensation, figure, force, or voice within you.
MASCULINE EMBODIMENT
We move the work out of concept and into the body. You will be guided to meet the places where your power, resistance, anger, desire, grief, and instinct have been held back, hidden, or over-managed. This is about learning how to inhabit yourself with more honesty, responsibility, and presence.
DYNAMIC EMOTIONAL ALCHEMY
This is a physical, emotional, and energetic release process designed to move what has been stirred.
Shadow work cannot stay in the mind.
The body has to be included.
The breath has to be included.
The voice has to be included.
The nervous system has to be included.
The animal has to be included.
INTEGRATION
The graveyard is not where the work ends. It is where the performance gets buried.
We close with how to bring this work back into real life: conflict, desire, resentment, boundaries, avoidance, and the moments the nice guy tries to take over again.
This is how the shadow becomes relationship instead of possession.
THIS IS FOR THE MAN WHO
Feels resentment beneath his kindness.
Avoids conflict, then feels invisible or disrespected.
Struggles to say what he actually wants.
Judges powerful, selfish, dominant, or sexually expressed men.
Has done therapy, men’s work, spiritual work, or personal growth, but knows there are still parts of him being kept outside the room.
Is tired of trying to become a better version of the same carefully managed identity.
Wants grounded, embodied, direct shadow work.
Does not want to be coddled.
Is willing to stop looking away.
THIS IS NOT FOR THE MAN WHO
Wants to use shadow work to justify harmful behaviour.
Is looking for a place to blame women.
Wants to be told he is secretly more evolved than everyone else.
Is unwilling to take responsibility for what gets revealed.
Needs crisis support or a substitute for therapy.
Cannot respect the confidentiality and dignity of the other men in the room.
Wants a comfortable self-development day.
This is not that.
WORKSHOP ITINERARY
ARRIVAL + OPENING
SHADOW WORK 101
MEETING YOUR SHADOW
LUNCH (PROVIDED)
COMMUNING WITH YOUR SHADOW
MASUCLINE EMBODIMENT
ALCHEMY CEREMONY
SNACK & SHORT BREAK
SHARING CIRCLE
INTEGRATION TEACHING
DISCLAIMER:
This is deep, confronting work.
It is not therapy, medical care, or crisis intervention.
You are responsible for your own participation, boundaries, and integration.
You will never be required to share anything you do not choose to share.
You will be asked to respect the confidentiality of the men in the room.
You will be asked to stay connected to your body, your capacity, and your responsibility.
This work is not about glorifying the shadow.
It is about meeting what has been hidden so it can stop leaking unconsciously into your life, your relationships, your leadership, and your sense of self.
YOUR DESCENT GUIDES
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Braedyn Stockfish is the leader of The Grounded Man and a men’s work facilitator devoted to helping men build Self Leadership, emotional honesty, and integrity in their everyday lives. His work brings men into deeper relationship with their truth, their bodies, their brotherhood, and their responsibility — not through performance, but through grounded practice and lived accountability.
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Kali Ember is a healer, shadow worker, and financial dominatrix whose work lives at the intersection of embodiment, emotional alchemy, feminine truth, and deep inner work. She brings a direct, intuitive, and grounded feminine mirror to the room — one that does not coddle the performance, but meets what is underneath with precision, presence, and responsibility.
FAQ
Q: Do I need experience with shadow work?
A: No. You need willingness, honesty, and the capacity to participate in a full day of inner work.
Q: Is this therapy?
A: No. This is a facilitated personal-growth and embodiment workshop. It may be therapeutic, but it is not therapy or a replacement for mental health support.
Q: Will I have to share personal things in front of the group?
A: You will be invited to share, but not forced. The work is not about performance. You are responsible for your own boundaries.
Q: Is this only for fathers?
A: No. This is for men who feel called to the work. Fathers are welcome, but fatherhood is not required.
Q: What should I wear?
A: Comfortable clothes you can move in. There will be meditation, embodied practice, emotional release work, and integration.
Q: Where in Wakefield?
A: The exact location is still TBD and will be shared with registered participants.
Q: How many men will be there?
A: This is limited to 13 men.
Q: What if I am nervous?
A: Good. Nervousness often means you are close to something real. You do not need to arrive fearless. You only need to be willing to stop looking away.